Sunday, 12 August 2012

Mum of Teenagers

I still remember when my two boys were still young...they believe in everything I say! But gone are those days as my boys are now 12 and 10. Suddenly, managing them became too complicated that I either sorted out to growling, shouting or shutting down. Both have they own opinion now, most probably because of the different cultures that they've been exposed to. The hugs and kisses that used to be abundant in the house suddenly vanished and laughters and tickles became less and less. BUT WHAT WENT WRONG????
Is it me who still thinks that they are still my little babies or is it them who feels that what I'm telling them are different from what they hear from their peers? Whatever it is, I think that growing teenagers has been proven the most complicated of all.



After growling to my eldest about his disobedience and talking back, he will end up saying "Don't I have the right to express what I feel?" My youngest would either say "Stop talking back to mum!" And it will go on and on... I think I only want the best for them and I know that with all the resistance and the confrontations we had, I would still do my part as a parent. I hope that they will soon realize that it is just my job and my responsibility to teach them everything and equipped them with all the stuff they needed on their future indipendancy. Whaever age they become, I know that they would always be my babies!


Can't believe my eyes! Nyanne just gracefully turned 8 mos last night! My little baby who just silently sit on my lap, now trying to reach everything with her hand. Those little feet and hand who used to be covered my mittens ans socks, are now starting to grab, step, push and walk. Since early this month, Dad brought him a wooden cot which she really likes. Last week, I was out for kitchen for a minute and came back amazed by what I saw, Nyanne standing on the side of the cot! I tried to put her down again and get in my hand my little camera (which I always keep handy for her milestones), encouraged her to do it again, and bingo! pulling herself up she was able to stand on her own! I was so surprised because she wasnt even into sitting by herself and now there she is moving to the next step. Though those white teeth are still to come, for us, she still got the brightest smile.

These are the things that Nyanne can already do when she turned 8!

Physical Aspects...

  • Eat solid food three times a day (banana and yogurt are her fave)
  • Followed a ball through crawling
  • Pulled herself up in a cot or anything solid and even stand up while leaning to dad or mum
  • Starts to sit without support
  • Throws toys all over again and giggle to someone who grabs the toy for her
  • Enjoys bath time and plays with the water
  • Likes to be almost thrown in the air
  • Loves her TV so much
  • Likes to stand next to mum or dad with just one hand support
Emotionally Attached..

  • Suddenly smile (after a teary eye) when mum and dad holds her
  • Starts crying when mum or dad leaves for work
  • Can make several facial expression like sad face, frowning, blank face etc
  • Vanity strikes early!! She loves looking at herself in the mirror which started when she was 4 mos old
  • Loves to rest on mum or dad's chest and would just look at us affectionately and go back on the same  position
  • Listens to phone on her ear

I know that as time flies, Nyanne would continuously amazed us! And I am so looking forward to that and so excited to keep an eye on every milestones!



Wednesday, 23 May 2012

Growing Together



It's an irony that when our kids were small, we are kinda telling them everyday that they should grow up fast and help us with chores, find work and pay us back. I cant believe that it was 12 years had already passed and my two boys were entering puberty stage now. They were becoming more independent as ever and do their own stuff with little supervision. They will have stories from school which I cannot relate and will need a lot of explaining  before I get it. Also with all the activities they are engaged with, home time is less as well! I know that my kids are in the curiosity stage of life, and inspite of busy work schedule and looking after our new baby, I still want to be always available for them. I know that they had been "suffering" with the responsibility of looking after the baby, and that they had no choice but to do it, I seldom hear complains from them. Thumbs up to this two brothers Gian and Nyle! trhough they fight everyday, we all know that they still love each other and would stand out for each other! I love you kuya and kuykuy!

Baby No More!

As I stare to her today
It's a joy that you cannot pay
My heart stumble a bit
As I put her to sleep
Six months passed already
My baby seems to be a lady
Dressing her up is such a fun
Lookin at her, we are stunned!
She doesnt cry like others do
She sleeps at night without further ado
She loves watchin tv at day
Jungle junction and Mickey Mouse all day
You know that this are her faves
And all day we are saved!
Cuddling her is an excitement
She'll give back a smile, with this intent
"Please cuddle me more,
And show me your love,
And in return, I will grow so fast,
To return the love I had in years,
More than you do, might put you in tears"
I love you Nyanne
You make us all smile!
The memories we have,
Will be treasured by us
Blessed is dad, gian and nyle
We always have you by our side
I know that this time wont last
Being a baby dependent on us
You'll start to crawl, sit and walk so fast
Do your own stuff,and do all the musts
Soon you'll be baby no more
For you, we might be a bore
But for sure we will love you more
We'll save all your little pics
And the memories that goes with it
So that when its time for you to speak
And wonder how was it
We can tell you how you were
When you're just as tiny as a bear
So sleep my princess for now
Get all the energy you needed
When you wake up later today
I'll make you smile and make your day!



Thursday, 10 May 2012

Ironic

Naalala ko lang ang lyrics ng kantang Ironic ni Alanis Morisette ...

                                                                            Ironic"

An old man turned ninety-eight
He won the lottery and died the next day
It's a black fly in your Chardonnay
It's a death row pardon two minutes too late
And isn't it ironic... don't you think

It's like rain on your wedding day
It's a free ride when you've already paid
It's the good advice that you just didn't take
Who would've thought... it figures

Mr. Play It Safe was afraid to fly
He packed his suitcase and kissed his kids goodbye
He waited his whole damn life to take that flight
And as the plane crashed down he thought
"Well isn't this nice..."
And isn't it ironic... don't you think

It's like rain on your wedding day
It's a free ride when you've already paid
It's the good advice that you just didn't take
Who would've thought... it figures

Well life has a funny way of sneaking up on you
When you think everything's okay and everything's going right
And life has a funny way of helping you out when
You think everything's gone wrong and everything blows up
In your face

A traffic jam when you're already late
A no-smoking sign on your cigarette break
It's like ten thousand spoons when all you need is a knife
It's meeting the man of my dreams
And then meeting his beautiful wife
And isn't it ironic...don't you think
A little too ironic...and, yeah, I really do think...

It's like rain on your wedding day
It's a free ride when you've already paid
It's the good advice that you just didn't take
Who would've thought... it figures

Life has a funny way of sneaking up on you
Life has a funny, funny way of helping you out
Helping you out




It is true that life has a funny way of sneaking up on you. Just like what happened to me today. I had this thing that I had been longing for and had it at its peak price 2 weeks ago. And today, I found out it was on special, almost half the price. I should have saved almost a gran only if I waited until today! The worst thing is that people around me whispered that sinful phrase " SABI KO SAYO EH!" which made my feeling worser. hay.. it's really ironic that things don't happen the way we want it to be. I even asked God for sign, but probably, I interpreted it the wrong way! Probably God was telling me to be patient and whispering to me that there is a good deal waiting for me in two weeks, but I was so loud and excited that I failed to listen. 
I feel so down today but I know that I cant turn back time and start all over again. This would just be another lesson for me never be in a hurry. That everything happens for a reason. That the irony of life is what  makes life exciting and challenging. 

  



Friday, 4 May 2012

S t o p o v e r

Sa kadahilanang sensitibo ang aking trabaho at sa katunayan ay may natanggal na sa pagkukuwento nito sa publiko, minabuti kong isalaysay ang aking istorya sa lenguwaheng eksperto ako.

Ako ay isang manggagawang panlipunan dito sa bansang Aetearoa, ang lugar ng mga tupa, lugar ng pag-asa para sa maraming Pilipino at literal na lugar ng berdeng mga bundok at kapaligiran.

Sa mahigit 2 taon na ngayon ako ay nagtratrabaho sa isang rehabilitasyon ng mga kabataan, kulungan kung kanilang tawagin sapagkat ang mga silid, kusina, palikuran ay pawang mga nakakandado. Subalit para sa akin, ito ay isang stop over, lugar para sila ay mag-isip kung anung landas ang nais nilang tahakin. Minsan ay pang umaga, minsan ay panghapon kung ako ay pumasok. Binubuo ito ng anim na maliit na gusali na ang bawat isa ay isang modelo ng munting tahanan, kanya kanyang silid, may kusina, may telebisyon, radyo, mga gamit pang teknolohiya, at isang opisina para sa 3-5 empleyado. Ang mga pinto ay ibubukas lamang sa takdang oras, ang bawat gawain ay nakaistruktura. May puntos ang bawat galaw, lahat ay nakatala.

Maswerte ako dahil pagbalik ko mula sa panganganak kay Nyanne, napunta ako sa isang gusali na may 6 na bata at lahat ay pawang mga pili mula sa lima pang gusali, na silang mga pinaka mababait at matitino at naghahanda na sa kanilang pagbabalik sa kani-kanilang pamilya at komunidad.

Nagsisimula ang araw sa paggising sa kanila, pangungumusta sa kanilang magdamag, pag-eehersisyo, paliligo, pag-aalmusal at pagsasaayos ng gusali. Bilang empleyado, kami ay nandoon hindi para mag-utos kundi para himukin sila sa isang positibong araw. May ilang hindi sanay sa ganoong gawain, minsan ay pangit ang gising at mambubuwisit. Dahil sa iba ang kultura, normal ang magbitaw ng masasamang salita at minsan ay mang alipusta, subalit kaya nandoroon ang mga manggagawang panlipunan ay upang sila ay turuan at gabayan. Karamihan ay doble ang taas at lapad ng katawan kumpara sa akin, kaya minsan at nagiging tampulan ng tukso at pang-iintimida, pero walang magagawa trabaho lang.

Lilipas ang mula ika-9 ng umaga hanggang ika-3 ng hapon, may mga gurong sa gusali ay pupunta, magtuturo ng literatura, matematika, mga laro. Ang mga empleyado ay nandoroon para din magturo, manaway, mang himok mag-aral at siguraduhin na ang bawat isa ay ligtas. Bawat gawain at galaw, may isang libro na kailangang sagutan. Inililista ang obserbasyon, problema at magagandang puntos na nangyari sa mga kabataan.

Pagdating naman ng hapon, kadalasang pagod na ang mga ito. Sasabihing puro gawaing pampaaralan ang pinagtuunan, kailangan namang ipahinga ang puso at isipan. Kadalasan kapag positibo ang umaga, ang mga kabataan ay may konting laya, subalit kung marami ang naging pilyo, may mga programang nakahanda para ito ay itama. Lilipas ang oras, isports, hapunan, kwentuhan, alas 8 ng gabi ang oras ng tulugan. Sa mga naging mabuti, may dvd, mp3, laptop o tv, sa mga kinulang, andon ang kisame at malambot na higaan.

Ang bawat isa sa kanila ay di nauubusan ng kwento, bagamat may mga araw na siguro 80 porsyento lang ang naiintindihan ko. Dagdagan pa ng mga kasamang mula din naman sa ibang isla, may magalang at meron ding kabaligtaran. Pero nasa saiyo na kung panu ka nila tratuhin, basta ipakita mo lang na kahit maliit, marami ka ring alam na di nila alam.

Kakaibang trabaho kumpara sa nakasanayan ko, pero ang pinakagusto ko, paglabas mo ng bakuran, wala kang intindihin at lahat ng oras mo ay para na sa iyong sariling tahanan. Malaya kang gawin ang gusto mo at siguraduhin na wala ni isa man sa pamilya mo ang mapupunta doon!

First breeze of winter..

Grrrrrr! This was the initial reaction the other day as we flip the calendar into May.. It's the first day of winter..It's freezin' cold outside and as we already know its winter, most of the jumpers and woolen clothes are still in the drawers coz unlike this year, last year's one just pass as with the normal 5- 10 degrees at its peak.

Poor Nyanne, was the first victim of colds. She was sneezing the whole night and oozing with her stuffed nose. So, this only busted the myth that babies born in a cold country can stand a cold weather, indeed my Nyanne, and probably most of babies around New Zealand should be kept warm and comfortable at all times.

So for this winter, I am taking the following precautions:

1. Always wear 2-3 layers of clothing - this depends on the house you are in. As more houses in NZ are not insulated, you don't want to spend all your money for your electric bill in using the heater at all times. In fact, heater can also cause some respiratory problems and allergies as there will be no chance for air to circulate, so we only use it at night.

2. Ensure that 'pambanyos' or soft liniment is available at all times -  When Nyanne was born, I wasnt able to find anywhere in NZ what they called in the Philippines mansanilya. Accordingly, it helps babies to get rid of air in the stomach. So instead, I use efficacent oil and make sure that she has it around 7 or 8 or just before bedtime.

3. Bathing every other day during bad weather. Water is overflowing in NZ and you can afford to take a bath 2 - 3 times a day without suffering your family budget, but this only applies on summer! There's an old saying "wala namang namatay sa di paliligo". So for me skipping a bath during winter is fair enough for Nyanne (and sometimes even for us adults! lol)

4. And most of all, give her all the hugs and kisses in the world -  this keeps her warm at all times and passing the message to her that the love we have for her is even better!